Dating a British Man: End of Night Snog
Dating a British Man is a ten-part series that will take you through the dating ups and downs, it can be considered a guide as what to do — or, what not to do — depending on how you look at it. Here are some tidbits based on my experiences dating British men from England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. Not all at the same time! In case you missed it, Part 1: Brits in America.
The end of night snog
Oh my, the anticipation of what’s going to happen at the end of the night might distract you from enjoying the actual date. If things are going smoothly and there’s chemistry, it should be natural. But, a Brit might be a little more reserved than you’re used to versus a pushy American pawing over you. Or nervous that he doesn’t want to offend you based on culture norms.
What to expect
I met up for Guinness with a lad from Strabane, Northern Ireland, and I could tell he was a wee bit nervous. Rather than waiting for that pressured moment, if things are going well, then MWAH. If it feels right and you fancy a kiss, lean in a bit, with a glint in your eye, and if he is into it, he’ll meet you half way. And, done. No stress. In this case, it was definitely a “woah” moment. We were both taken aback by the instant spark. Why wait all evening for that?!
What to do
If you lean in and he doesn’t follow your lead – cringe moment – don’t panic. Brits definitely don’t like PDA (public displays of affection.) Just lean back. He probably didn’t even notice. Maybe he will surprise you and plant a wet one at the door! A true British gentleman will make sure you get home safely, don’t be suspicious of any ulterior motives.
How do I know this? I’m the American Bridget Jones. She worked in book publishing and transitioned into television. As did I. She is neurotic and unlucky in love. As am I. She had a happy ending. As will I.
What was your favorite first kiss?